Online Dating Photos: Your Guide To What They are, How To Present Yourself, What To Avoid and What Your Photos Reveal About You
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I notice subtle nuances in online dating photos and how they are perceived by others. The recent explosion in online dating sites has caught many off guard with little to no etiquette to follow. Improper photos can completely ruin your chances of meeting that special someone online. I recommend clients approach online dating like job-hunting: just as you would never submit a poor resume to a potential employer, do not post an online dating profile that you are not proud of. Here is my list of No No’s to avoid.
1) Do not post photos with exes. (Obvious, but you would be surprised how many people post photos with exes or possible cropped out exes.)
2) Stay away from selfies. (This is especially gym selfies, car selfies, and bathroom selfies. Unless you have an epic selfie on top of a mountain peak, ski lift, or with a celebrity, just say no to selfies)
3) Avoid Cliche Fish Photos. Women will assume the larger the fish, the smaller the tackle : )
4) Hold off on photos with your kids. (It is great you love your children but simply listing you have children in your profile is enough for now.)
5) Avoid profile photos with sunglasses. (People want to see your eyes!) If you must, go ahead and use one only.
6) Avoid group shots unless you specifically mark who you are in the lineup. (People don't want surprises nor switch-a-roo.)
7) No duck-faces nor Snapchat filters (no explanation needed)
8) Stay away from photos without you in the photo! This is a dating website, not your portfolio gallery.
9) Avoid staged portrait photos and corporate headshots. These are often stiff, lifeless and are easily identifiable as being staged.
10) Avoid photos taken >3-5 years. You should be proud of who you are today and how you look today.
11) Avoid extremely small, distant, blurry and dark photos. (People want to see you and how you look like, not a silhouette.)
12) Avoid hat photos (1 is fine, but make sure it is not your main profile photo).
13) Include at least 1 full body photo and make sure to show your face. If all your photos are headshots, 1/4 body shots or from the side, people might assume you have something to hide
Now that I got all those out of the way, you may be wondering, what can I use? You want photos that put you in the best light and that represent who you are. Here are my recommendations:
1) Photos of you smiling or laughing . Candid and embarrassing photos are great. It shows you know how to let go, poke fun of yourself and have fun! Authenticity conveys confidence.
2) Photos of you doing what you love — do you love dancing? hiking? dressing up for Halloween? Show it! This requires some planning on your part — you can invest in a Joby Gorillapod so you can take more photos of yourself or you can ask someone to take a photo for you.
3) Ask someone to take a photo of you. It is easier to ask a stranger to take a photo of you while on vacation / tourist place of interest. Shy? If you struggle with selfies, people may volunteer to help you out. Additionally, if you are friendly and offer to take a photo for someone, they will usually reciprocate.
4) Look for photos from events online. If there is an event you attended recently (sporting, professional, social etc.), you can probably find photos online. Remember to ask the photographer/event organizer where the photos will be posted.
5) Use a variety of shots (3–6 total photos should suffice). 1 up close-up, 1 action photo, 1+ travel photo and 1 candid photo can round out your profile.
6) Use photos that will engage suitors, invite them to inquire about the backstory behind the photo. Where is that view of? What event was this photo taken at?
7) Label photos with a caption as needed. (i.e. friends, babies, others or the situation/setting). Is that your child or not? Who is your hot friend? Is that your ex in the photo? Your ability to write a captivating caption vs. stating ‘this is me at the beach’ can help make you more interesting.
Photofeeler is a good source for help with evaluating photos. Remember it is better to have fewer / higher quality photos than have that one extra unflattering photo (you are only as attractive as your worst photo). For a complimentary dating profile review - apps, photos, bio - contact me today!!! For additional advice with writing a bio and selecting apps, check out this FAQ.